When Adron Chambers visited students on behalf of the Your Success Story Program, he taught them that their success in reaching any goal depended upon their ability to turn minor setbacks into major comebacks. Adron told the students his own story of how he did just that to reach his goal of playing in the big leagues. This is great advice for minor league players seeking to do the same.
Adron warns to not let a minor setback ruin your day when you can turn them into major comebacks that will put you right back on the path to success and happiness.
This is important because happiness is even more than a good feeling—it is also an indispensable ingredient of your success. Athletes who can successfully turn a minor setback into a major comeback are those who define themselves not by what has happened to them, but by what they can make out of what has happened to them. They have the ability and the willingness to move up NOT despite setbacks, but BECAUSE of them.
It’s all about how we define the event originally perceived as a setback. Reality is merely our brain’s relative understanding of the world based on where and how we are observing it. We can change this perspective at any moment and by doing so change our experience of the event. It’s all about the path that we choose to take following the setback event.
For example, after we experience what we view as a setback, we have an option of taking three different paths.
One path keeps us circling around where we are; the setback event creates no change and we end up right where we started. The second path leads us toward further negative consequences and we feel defeated and even worse off than ever. The third, and preferred path, takes us from failure or setback to a place where we are stronger and more capable than even before experiencing the setback; this is the path forward.
A professional athlete's ability to find and take the path forward is the difference between athletes who are crippled by failure and those who rise above it.
Keep in mind that contained within every setback is an opportunity for growth that we can teach ourselves to see and take advantage of. The most successful professional athletes view adversity not as a stumbling block, but as a stepping-stone to greatness!
Note: A special thanks to Adron Chambers for sharing his success strategy of turning minor setbacks into major comebacks.
So another New Year has started, and you have things in your life you'd definitely like to change, but you know from experience that traditional New Year's resolutions aren't going to get you very far. How do you resolve the problem of starting the New Year full of ideas about how you’re going to do things differently this year, but avoid fading back to the way things used to be last year?
The answer lies in something called “energy rituals.” Energy rituals are highly specific behaviors or routines that you do at the same time every day (or on the specific days you select). By setting a very special time for your routine, you don't have to spend energy thinking about WHEN to get it done. Willpower is a highly finite and limited resource in each of us, so the goal is to use less of it wherever possible, by making more behaviors in our lives automatic.
If you‘ve been a student of the Progressive Professional Program
, you’ve heard about willpower and how it differs from Stillpower. You’ve also learned the difference between time management and energy management, and how energy management is superior to time management in the lives of professional athletes.
Back to energy rituals. You must build an energy ritual that doesn't demand so much from you that you quickly find ways to avoid it, and eventually give up altogether. Remember what happened to last year’s resolutions? How long did they last?
The goal of you establishing and keeping an energy ritual is that you want to feel soooo good when complete your ritual, that you feel much worse when you don’t. When that happens to you, you know that an energy ritual has taken hold of you!
If you find yourself falling off the wagon, or struggling mightily to stay on it, reduce the challenge, but stay the course. Any regimen will serve you well. Repetition, even in very small doses, builds capacity. Any positive change you can make will be hugely satisfying - and a source of inspiration to make the next one.Adapted from Tony Schwartz, HBR Daily Alert
Here is the last installment of this Blog posting. Be sure to try at least one of the nine...and...don't be shy about sharing one of your own ways. Just post it here as a "Comment."
7. See your work in terms of progress, not perfection
We all approach the goals we pursue with one of two mindsets: (1) the Be-Good mindset, where the focus is on proving that you have a lot of ability and that you already know what you're doing; and (2) the Get-Better mindset, where the focus is on developing your ability and learning new skills. You can think of it as the difference between wanting to show that you are already as good as your're going to get, versus wanting to get better.
When you have a Be-Good mindset, you expect to be able to do everything perfectly already, and you constantly compare yourself to others. You quickly start to doubt your ability when things don't go smoothly, and this creates stress. Ironically, worrying about your ability makes you much more likely to perform less than your best.
A Get-Better mindset leads instead to self-comparison and a concern with making progress — how well are you doing today, compared with how you did yesterday, last month, or last year? When you think about what you are doing in terms of learning and improving, accepting that we all make mistakes along the way, you experience far less stress.
8. Think about the progress that you've already made.
It's not whether we've reached our goal, but the rate at which we are closing the gap between where we are now and where we want to end up that determines how we feel. Think of it as moving from "I Am Not" to "I Am". Take a moment and reflect on what you've accomplished during previous seasons before turning your attention to the challenges of the upcoming season. How far have you come already?
9. Know whether optimism or defensive pessimism works best for you.
Sometimes it's hard for players to stay positive when they've got a long hill to climb, with lots of competition along the way from other players vying for that same spot on the roster. Staying positive for some players isn't just hard — it also feels wrong. And as it turns out, they are correct — optimism doesn't work for them.
Promotion versus prevention focus. Some athletes think of their careers as opportunities for achievement and accomplishment — they have what psychologists call a promotion focus. This focus is about maximizing gains and avoiding missed opportunities. For others, doing a job well is about security, about not losing the positions they've worked so hard for. This prevention focus places the emphasis on avoiding danger. It's about minimizing losses, and trying to hang on to what you've got.
Understanding promotion and prevention motivation helps us understand why people can work so differently to reach the same goal. Promotion motivation is the desire to really go for it. This is enhanced by optimism. Believing that everything is going to work out great is essential for promotion-focused performance.
Prevention motivation, on the other hand, feels like keeping danger away. It is sustained not by optimism, but by defensive pessimism. Prevention-minded athletes actually work best when they think about what might go wrong, and what they can do to keep that from happening.
So, pick which one works best for you: optimism or defensive pessimism and use it to your advantange. Maybe a little of both is more your style.
In summary, try one or all of the nine and see how it works. You won't know until you try.
Adapted from HBR's "Nine Ways Successful People Defeat Stress" by H. Grant Halvorson
Feeling stressed? Of course you are. You have too much on your plate, people are counting on you, and to top it all off, you‘re getting ready for the upcoming season. It’s difficult to be a professional baseball player these days and not experience times of stress. Yet when it comes to stress, the difference between athletes who are successful and those who aren’t is not whether or not they suffer from stress, but how they deal with it.
In the next few blog postings, we share nine scientifically-proven strategies for defeating stress from a recent article by H. Grant Halvorson, Ph.D., associate director for the Motivation Science Center at the Columbia University.
Let's begin with number one: Have self-compassion.
Self-compassion is cutting yourself some slack. It's being willing to look at your mistakes or failures with kindness and understanding — without harsh criticism or defensiveness. Studies show that people who are self-compassionate are happier, more optimistic, and less anxious and depressed.
And, they are more successful, too. Most of us believe that we need to be hard on ourselves to perform at our best, but it turns out that's 100% wrong. A little self-compassion when things are at their most difficult can reduce your stress and improve your performance, by making it easier to learn from your mistakes.
Learning and growing involves making mistakes. So, if you make a mistake. Acknowledge it. Learn from it, and move on. Don't stress over it on into the night, the next day, and so on. Have some self-compassion, and while you're at it, show some compassion for your teammates, coaches, and manager. I'll bet they will be thankful that you did.
Research has linked a pessimistic explanatory style to depression, physical illness and injury, which doesn’t help the player or the team.
Explanatory Style - Three components make up one’s explanatory style. Let’s take a closer look at each of them and see how you can use an optimistic explanatory style to become your team’s Glue Guy.
Personal - This involves how a person explains where the cause of an event arises. For example, a player using a pessimistic explanatory style sees himself as the sole cause of an event. You might hear him say, "I always have trouble hitting that pitch.” A player with an optimistic explanatory style who would say, "I sometimes have trouble hitting that pitch, and the wind made it even more difficult today.”
Permanent - This involves how one explains the extent of the cause. A player with a pessimistic explanatory style would see the situation as unchangeable and comment to the team, “We never win games at this stadium.” On the other hand, a player with an optimistic explanatory style would say, “We may have lost more games than we won here in the past, but let’s turn that around today and get a win!”
Pervasive - This involves how one explains the extent of the effects. For example, if one of your starting pitchers is put on the disabled list, the player with the pessimistic explanatory style would comment, “That blows the rest of the season for us.” The player using an optimistic explanatory style would respond to that comment by saying, “Well, having him on the disabled list will hurt our team, but we can pick up the slack in lots of other ways.”
In fact, research has linked a pessimistic explanatory style to depression, physical illness and injury, which doesn’t help the player or the team. Studies of athletes from collegiate swimmers to professional baseball players show that explanatory style predicts athletic performance.
Using an optimistic explanatory style will help you become your team’s Glue Guy and support your team’s success.
Make it your personal goal to become your team’s Glue Guy!
Source: The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor
Please join me in welcoming our guest blogger, Taylor Flickinger. Taylor is 22 years old and on the road to success. His blogs provide you with raw, unfiltered advice on how to get from where you are to where you want to be; going from "I Am Not" to "I Am." Taylor invites your comments and insights on what his words mean to you and how you can put them into practice today!
"They Gonna Try And Bring You Down, Hating’s What They Do
But You Gotta Keep A Smile, Stay Up On Your Move
They Gonna Try And Tell You No, Shatter All Your Dreams
But You Gotta Get Up Go, To Big And Better Things."
~ Mac Miller
No matter who you are, No matter where you’re at, jealousy will be nipping at your feet to pull you down. There are people in the world that are jealous of success who will go to extreme lengths to prevent you from reaching it. Show “those” type zero reaction.
Best thing to do is let it roll off and keep it pushing forward towards your goal(s). Do not lose sight of what you want to achieve, you must let nothing stand in your way. It’s important to worry only about you; there is nothing wrong about being selfish with good intentions.
Life has it’s hard times, and becoming discouraged will only leave you stuck. Live free and always remember: Jealousy is a form of hate and hate is a form love that hasn’t found a way to express itself logically.
Por favor afíliese a mí en dar la bienvenida a nuestro invitado blogger, Taylor Flickinger. Taylor tiene 22 años y en el camino del éxito. Sus blogs le proveen del consejo crudo, no filtrado en como ponerse de donde usted es a donde usted quiere ser; yendo de 'no Soy' a 'Soy. ¡' Taylor invita sus comentarios y perspicacias en lo que sus palabras le significan y cómo usted puede ponerlos en práctica hoy!
Va a intentar y le baje, lo que hacen de Hating' pero You Gotta mantener A Smile, mantenerse arriba en su MoveThey va a tratar y decirle No, romper todas su DreamsBut You Gotta Get hasta Go, para Things. ~ Mac Miller
No grandes y mejor importa quién eres, no importa de donde eres en, los celos se pellizcar a tus pies para que le tire hacia abajo. Hay gente en el mundo que están celosos del éxito que irá a extremos insospechados que le impiden llegar a él. Mostrar 'esos' reacción de tipo cero.
Lo mejor es dejarlo roll off y manténgalo empujando hacia delante hacia sus propósitos.
No perder de vista lo que quiere lograr, nada debe permitir que se interpongan en su camino. Es importante preocuparse sólo por usted; no hay nada malo acerca de ser egoísta con buenas intenciones.
La vida tiene sus tiempos duros, y ser desalentado sólo te dejará pegado. Vivir libre y recuerde siempre: los celos son una forma de odio y odio es una amor de forma que no ha encontrado una manera de expresarse de manera lógica.
When you win, you win as a team so it’s important for you to strengthen your relationship with your team.
Here are five core values of a strong, winning team:
No. 1 Commitment. No team has ever achieved extraordinary results without 100% commitment to the goals of the team so that all members are moving towards a common goal.
No. 2 Contribution. If your team is going to succeed, you as an individual, must contribute to the team. Bring value to the team both on and off the playing field.
No. 3 Competence. You already know that winning teams have competent players, and the strength of a team is impacted negatively by its weakest link. Tap into your resources such as coaches and mentors to help you improve your competence in weak areas.
No. 4 Communication. To help your team operate at its maximum potential, you must be able to communicate with others in a way that is candid, open and honest.
5. Cooperation. This requires maturity and a willingness to understand one another. Be willing to compromise when necessary for the good of the team.
Source: “Succeeding Together,” by John C. Maxwell, Success Magazine Feb 2011
Cuando usted gana, usted gana como un equipo por lo que es importante para usted fortalecer su relación con su equipo.
Aquí hay cinco valores fundamentales de un equipo fuerte y ganador:
1. Compromiso. Nunca, ningún equipo ha logrado resultados extraordinarios sin compromiso 100% con los objetivos del equipo para que todos los miembros están avanzando hacia un objetivo común.
2. Contribución. Si su equipo va a tener éxito, usted como individuo, debe contribuir al equipo. Aportar valor al equipo tanto dentro como fuera del campo de juego.
3. Competencia. Ya sabes que equipos ganadores tienen jugadores competentes, y la fuerza de un equipo se vea afectada negativamente por su eslabón más débil. Aproveche sus recursos como entrenadores y mentores para ayudarle a mejorar su competencia en las áreas débiles.
4. Comunicación. Para ayudar a que su equipo funcione a su máximo potencial, debe ser capaz de comunicarse con otros en una manera franca, abierta y honesta.
5. Cooperación. Esto requiere madurez y voluntad de entenderse uno al otro. Estar dispuestos a hacer concesiones cuando sea necesario por el bien del equipo.
Fuente: "triunfar juntos," por John C. Maxwell, éxito Magazine febrero de 2011
Be Quick On and Off the Field
Recently, Eric Farris (Nashville Sounds) sent the following tweet: Quick breakfast, then a quick workout. On deck this morning.
Eric knows that professional baseball players have to be quick both on and off the field. There are many times when you must take time to make slow, reflective decisions. Yet, there are more times when you can’t or shouldn’t take time. You have to be quick. You have to think quick. You have to act quick. You’ve got to be on deck, readily available when needed.
As you start your day today, think back on a time when you had to make a quick decision or take a quick action. What was the outcome? If it wasn’t so good, what can you learn from it to increase your odds of making the right decision or taking the right action the next time you’re quickly called upon to do so? What about your time management? You don’t want to be forced to take make quick decisions or take quick actions when it’s not a good time to do so.
A little bit of reflection and planning when you DO have time, helps you come out ahead when you have to be quick and don’t have the time to think about it.
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Ser rápido en y fuera del campo
Eric Farris (sonidos de Nashville) sacó el siguiente tweet: desayuno rápido y, a continuación, un rápido entrenamiento. En la cubierta esta mañana.
Eric sabe que jugadores de béisbol profesional tienen que ser rápido en y fuera del campo. Hay muchas veces cuando usted debe tomar tiempo para tomar decisiones lentas y reflexivas. Sin embargo, hay veces cuando no se puede o no debe tomar tiempo. Tienes que ser rápido. Tienes que pensar rápido. Usted tiene que actuar rápido. Tienes que estar en cubierta, disponible cuando sea necesario.
Como empezar el día de hoy, creo que en un momento en que había que tomar una decisión rápida o tomar una acción rápida. ¿Cuál fue el resultado? Si no fuera tan bueno, ¿qué puede aprender de ella para aumentar tus probabilidades de tomar la decisión correcta o tomar la acción correcta, la próxima vez que usted está rápidamente exhortó a hacerlo? ¿Y su gestión del tiempo? No quieres ser obligados a tomar tomar rápidas decisiones o acciones rápidas cuando no es un buen momento para hacerlo.
Un poco de reflexión y planificación cuando tenga tiempo, ayuda a salir adelante cuando usted tiene que ser rápido y no tiene tiempo para pensar en ello.
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Your passion for your career can sometimes sabotage your attempts to succeed.
For example, when you go from feeling energized, excited and in control, to an overwhelming compulsion to achieve and produce, you’ve tipped from a healthy passion into harmful passion.
If this has happened to you, you need to return back to the positive side. This can be done easily by changing harmful thought patterns into helpful ones.
Below are two common examples of negative thoughts and how to change them into positive ones:
Flawed Evaluation of Self-Worth
Replace, “I am only as good as my last _______”
With, “Each day I can do my best, correct my mistakes, and learn for the next time I meet a similar challenge.”
Sense of Over-Responsibility
Replace, “If everything doesn’t go as planned, it’s usually my fault. I should have done better.”
With, “Things rarely go exactly as planned, and I only take responsibility for the areas within my control.”
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Source: E.G. Saunders, HBR Blog
Su pasión por su carrera a veces puede sabotear sus intentos de tener éxito.
Por ejemplo, cuando vaya de sensación energizada, emocionados y en control, a una compulsión abrumadora para lograr y producir, has punta desde una sana pasión en pasión perjudicial.
Si esto ha ocurrido a usted, debe regresar al lado positivo. Esto puede hacerse fácilmente cambiando patrones de pensamiento perjudiciales en los útiles. A continuación se presentan dos ejemplos comunes de pensamientos negativos y cómo cambiarlos en los positivos:
Evaluación errónea de la autoestima Reemplazar, "Sólo soy tan bueno como mi última _______" Con, "cada día puedo hacer mi mejor esfuerzo, corregir mis errores y aprender para la próxima vez cumplir un reto similar."
Sentido de responsabilidad Reemplazar, "si todo no va como estaba previsto, es normalmente mi culpa. Yo debo haber hecho mejor." Con "las cosas rara vez van exactamente como estaba previsto, y sólo asumo la responsabilidad de las áreas bajo mi control".
A continuación puede Tweet o Like y compartir con otras personas que trabajan hacia una meta.
Fuente: Por ejemplo, Saunders, Blog HBR
You’ve got to think success to be successful. No player was ever successful by thinking failure. No player was ever a failure by thinking success. It is that simple. And the tool which you must use to prevent negative circumstances from entering your life is that of faith. Have faith in yourself. Have faith in your team. Have faith in success.
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Piensa en el éxito!
Tienes que pensar en el éxito para tener éxito. Ningún jugador estaba siempre pensando en el éxito el fracaso. Ningún jugador fue siempre un fracaso por el éxito de pensamiento. Es así de simple. Y la herramienta que debe utilizar para evitar que las circunstancias negativas entren en su vida es el de la fe. Ten fe en ti mismo. Ten fe en tu equipo. Ten fe en el éxito.
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